i feel like. those gay boys who do makeup literally hav no idea how harmful makeup is to women because. theyre not expected to wear it they didnt grow up with that so its just a fun hobby to them. like this one time i was talking to this friend of a friend twink who has MUA in his instagram bio at a concert and he had like obv spent two hours doing his whole face highlight contour all the cut crease or whatever stuff and he was being real nice and then he was like “you have such good facial structure! i could do your makeup sometime itd be real fun!” and i was like thank you but nah i dont wear makeup anymore it fucked me up for a long time and made me feel real bad abt myself and. i swear he looked like a lost puppy he was glancing around like he was doing math equations in his head like he Could Not Process how my wearing makeup would hurt my self esteem bc? he does it to feel good and express himself! its 100% a personal choice for him! and i feel like these guys just have no idea how bad it is for women because its never been expected or required of them
A lot of women copy paste gay men’s “empowerment” from femininity and apply it to themselves but in reality they are completely different sentiments, they’re actually making a free choice because for their whole lives they were taught not to come near anything vaguely feminine, meanwhile women are taught from day 1 to be decorative and visually pleasing otherwise they are worthless and have failed their purpose as a female, women feel good with makeup because it makes them feel adequate and acceptable, not free or artistic.
I wish gay men developed a little empathy and stopped glamourizing femininity because while it is a playground to them for us it is this harmful chore that can lead to serious mental issues, disatisfaction and body dysmorphia.
(via phalloid-destroyer)
